Are you SSS? Single Secured Satisfied!
Part one of a three-part series on being single, love and relationships.
Being single is not about being lonely, needy and miserable, it’s about finding out who and why you are what you are. It’s the best productive seasons of your life, a time to fully discover who you truly are, and your life purpose. You get to find out more about your personality, your strength, weaknesses, your flaws and things that excites you. It’s a phase of your life that you get to learn a lot, you develop your skills and talent, explore new things and you get to be you! That’s pretty awesome!
You get to focus on you, you are accountable to you and value who you are. My encouragement to you if you are single is enjoy the process, discover, rediscover yourself and love yourself endlessly (self-love, that’s a topic we will revisit later on)
Here is my note of love to the singles.
Relationship with God
Firstly, as a single person, you start by deepening your relationship with God, get to know him intimately, fall in love with God all over, that’s the best thing that can ever happen to you. Your understanding of what true relationship is, starts with your relationship with God. Relationship with God is the core to any successful relationships with others.
When you understand God, relate with him freely and are honest with him, it then becomes easy to deal with others. True relationships are based on honesty.
Be totally honest with God, don’t shut him out of some areas of your life. Don’t put barriers to where he can get into, allow him free access into your closet, be mad honest with God, he cares about your feelings. Also note, your relationship with God is not performance based. He doesn’t love you only when you have prayed, read your bible, gone to church, paid your tithe and offerings or met his expectations, and not sinned. He loves you unconditionally. When you realise this, you go into any other relationship with such a mind-set.
Love people as they are without conditions.
Seek a whole life as a single person
You as an individual already have lots of issues and flaws, why complicate things by shifting your responsibility to love, and value yourself to someone else? God says you are complete in him, so you have to walk in that understanding that you do not need any man or woman to make you complete.
Don’t think for a second that as a single person means you are incomplete, can’t lead a great life until you find a partner. You are complete! Don’t wait or seek for people to validate you or make you happy, that’s not their responsibility. It’s laying a heavy burden on another who already have their own struggles and load to carry.
Don’t wait or seek for people to validate you or make you happy, that’s not their responsibility
You owe it to yourself to live completely each day. Do things that gives you a sense of completeness, be happy, have fun, enjoy your single-hood and don’t put your life on hold.
Be whole! Be satisfied as a single person while you believe God for your life partner.
I’ll be back next week delving a little deeper, but for now I leave you with this question. Are you SSS?
Please share your comments and thoughts below, do my points resonate with you or do you have a different view entirely? Would love to read them. Don’t forget, You are amazing! You rock! I rock! And together we are Connected2Rock!